Sunday, 25 June 2017

PM's parliamentary showdown on July 3.

LHL has thrown the gauntlet down in parliament on July 3. He meant it in a video on Facebook yesterday. He has invited all relevant parties including the opposition to question him on the embarrassing fallout with his siblings.
He has also apologised to Singaporeans yesterday. 
But before you run out in a skip and beat, he was apologising for the protracted airing of the dispute between his siblings, and not apologising for any personal wrongdoings or misjudgement in the public spat. 
In fact, he said boldly that he will deliver a ministerial statement to refute the "baseless allegations" when Parliament sits on July 3.
In other words, there's going to be a rumble in the democratic jungle when politicians go full throttle in this coming July's huddle. 
Mm...I wonder whether LHY and LWL will be invited to the parliamentary showdown to either offer their side of the story or question him themselves since they are deemed the main antagonists in this whole public dispute?
In any event, if I were ever invited to Parliament on July 3, these will be the questions I would like to ask my PM Lee. 
On paragraph 7 of LKY’s Last Will:-
1) Is it valid and properly executed? 
2) If so, what is holding PM Lee back from carrying out his late father's wish after all conditions are satisfied for its demolition?
3) If not, because he had "grave concerns" about the preparation of the 7th and Last Will, why did he not raise it up formally within reasonable time after it was read out to him three weeks after his father passed away, that is, in April 2015?
4) And if his reason was because he wanted to "avoid a public fight which would tarnish the name and reputation of Mr Lee and the family", is he hoping then to engage in a "private fight" with his siblings by raising the issue of its validity in a Statutory Declaration ("SD"), which was subsequently submitted to a ministerial committee, set up sometime last July? 
On the ministerial committee:- 
5) Why was it being convened in the first place?
6) Did PM Lee play any part in the ministerial committee being convened (or set up), that is, did he have a hand in starting it, appointing the members in the committee and setting the agenda/purpose for its appointment and perpetuation? 
7) Is the ministerial committee set up for the purpose of considering the various options to deal with the 38 Oxley Road house with the aim of gazetting it under the Preservation of Monument Act, even if it is against the testamentary intent of LKY, or for the other purpose of investigating whether the Last Will (on the demolition) was validly and properly executed, or both? 
8) If it was for the purpose of investigating the validity of the Last Will, isn't the Court of Law a better, more appropriate and competent forum to adjudicate on such matters? 
9) And if PM Lee had said that he did not want to challenge the Last Will because he wanted to avoid a public fight that would tarnish the reputation of his father and his legacy, is he then trying by other means to challenge it by submitting his SD to the ministerial committee voicing his "grave concerns" and hoping to keep it out of the public and the judicial eye? 
10) Is it wise, appropriate or proper for the ministerial committee to be made up of his subordinates (presumably attempting to wear different hats) and "sitting, arbitrating an issue related to their boss", when the issue in contention is largely personal, that is, about whether to go against LKY's wish in the overriding interest of the State or to comply with it, and more relevantly, about whether the Last Will is valid or not, wherein the dispute is primarily between their boss and their boss' siblings? 
On PM Lee's parliamentary and public statement:-
11) While it is not denied that PM Lee told parliament, posted in Facebook and made a public statement with his siblings that he personally believed his father was unwavering in desiring that 38 Oxley Road be demolished after his death, and the same should be duly honoured, why did he then act and protest in such a manner in his SD (that is, to question the Last Will on demolition) and submit the same to the ministerial committee, which unavoidably gives the impression that he hopes the committee would eventually decide to deal with the Oxley house by all means conceivable except by his father's wish to demolish it? 
(Is it because he is subjecting his personal interest to the State interest? If so, why even bother to raise such sensitive issues concerning the Will, which he knows would be seen as firing the first salvo in alleging impropriety on his younger brother's part and deepen the feud? sorry, that's a bonus, rider question). 
And last but not least...
12) Will there be a satisfactory, fair and permanent closure to this "Oxleymoronic" issue - where State interest is being muddled up with personal interest - so that Singaporeans can finally get on with their life and go back to watching American, Korean and Hong Kong soap operas with relish and great relief? 
Lesson? Just one, and it is enough...trust me.
Let me quote how PM Lee ended his speech on Facebook. 
"As public servants, my Ministers and I will always protect the integrity of our institutions, and uphold the strict standards separating private affairs from our public duties. We are determined to repair the damage that has been done to Singapore. We will continue to lead our nation and serve you to the best of our ability.”
I have no doubt that he meant every word in that conclusion, especially the part about repairing the damage. 
But I sincerely doubt July 3 will be the end of it. 
In fact, from now to July 3, we can expect a flurry of rebuttals (cloth pegs, extended clothing line, soiled linens and all) to deepen the wedge since LHY had already said he would respond later after carefully considering PM Lee's Facebook video. 
Our PM Lee further added that he hopes that "this full, public sharing in Parliament will dispel any doubts that have been planted and strengthen confidence in our institutions and our systems of government." 
Well, again, I personally doubt it about dispelling the doubt part.
For how can you resolve an issue that has its root in a rivalry that goes beyond procedural and administrative matters into the alleged source of siblings' betrayal, hatred and dishonour in an openly guarded, time-restricted and highly structured administrative setting? 
Furthermore, we can expect Parliament to be conducted with decorum, in mechanically formal manner, and like the American Presidential debates, but without the opposing candidate present, I foresee that not everything will be thrashed out, and therefore only one side would come out of it like a knight in shining parliamentary armour. At its worst, it may just be interpreted as a whitewashing session.
Mind you, this ain't no British or some Taiwan's no-hold-bar parliamentary fisticuffs right?
In other words, parliament is a perfect place to debate and discuss about policies, proposals and plans relating to governmental matters, but it is not (in my view) equipped (or even prepared for) such matters of the heart where the issues are highly emotional and deeply dividing, and the contesting "egos" are collectively half the size of two continents.
Alas, too much is at stake on either side for anyone to ever wish for a resolution in one or two parliamentary sitting? Pardon me, I am not that naive. 
At best, we will hear clearer, louder and stronger PM Lee's side of the story and his side only, and that only widens the chasm between him and his siblings (who are obviously not invited and may even prefer to fire their turret rounds on social media instead, where they would at least be assured of a more receptive and sympathetic audience).
So, in the end, July 3 will go some ways to clear the air, but it is of limited effectiveness if the siblings are not invited to a close-door session before a trusted and respected mediator to thrash out their differences without prejudice or reservation. 
Honestly, I as a citizen of Singapore do not think it is necessary at this most urgent time to hear PM Lee apologise to the world (for the public feud) and rehash his side of the story, which will be rather predictable accompanied by strong nationalistic and patriotic sentiments to boot. 
Instead, to be truly effective and to advance towards some real hope of resolution, I'd rather he, as the oldest brother and the first son his late father loved and trusted with his life, and with the future of Singapore, take the first initiative to approach his siblings with a heart of understanding, a soul for brotherly humility and a spirit of amicable settlement, and then talk it out with them away from the public circus; and if need be, to apologise to them and ask for their hand of reconciliation and healing to put this whole only-human ruckus behind them once and for all. 
That to me is the true sign of a leader, and more importantly, the hallmark of a good son and a trusted older brother who will bear his siblings' load because they ain't heavy. 
...and after that, after the private caucus with his siblings, no matter how long it takes, PM Lee then appears in Parliament holding the hands of his siblings and declares, "It's over." 
Not a single word needs to be added after that, because he would have spoken volume by that one simple, humbling act in and of Parliament, and the family and nation will then be on the road together to certain lasting healing.
Cheerz...


Bad Blood: The Blind men and the Elephant syndrome.

I get the feeling that July 3 has already started, and it would definitely be more interesting than the actual day, where LHL will be defending his side of the story.

The social media and news have already been busy airing and printing the opinions of both sides, and I should add that the press is rather fair-handed in balancing the different views.

It nevertheless makes for sometimes-surprising and sometimes-awkward Ping-Pong-like information exchanges for the general public reader, where one side serves with a forehand twist and the other side hits back with a backhand smack, and so on and so forth. 

Last night, even SMS of Law and Finance Ms Indranee Rajah ("Ms Rajah") has gone on a foray to ask for the identity of the lawyer who drafted LKY's 7th and Last Will. Trust me, the showdown is just warming up before July 3.

Now, PM Lee is keeping mum, preserving or reserving himself for July 3. I guess he doesn't need to talk much in the interim since his cabinet luminaries and wife like TCH, Lawrence Wong, Ho Ching, Ms Rajah and Tharman are stepping in to offer their views in support and in vindication of themselves and/or their PM. Of course, to be fair, some of them had to come forward to defend themselves as LHY had fired the first salvo at them.

However, before July 3, it is undeniable that the government are all united behind their PM, that's for sure.  And for Ms Rajah, she is even going the extra mile to make herself part of the family feud in the name of State's interest and public concern to call for investigation of the Last Will. The camaraderie amongst them is thus not only tight, but also infectious and heartwarming.

Personally, it is arguable as to whether they are doing this because he is their boss. But more relevantly, I believe PM Lee is locked in an unenviable position of being both the oldest son of the founding father and the elected leader of the nation. As such, his allegiance and duties to both naturally overlap and are conflicted.

I also believe that the rivalry between the siblings has already been soured from day one when the joint executors (LHY & LWL) accused their brother/beneficiary of intermeddling, undercutting and disrespecting their authority as their father's officially appointed trustees of his estate. Mind you, the duties and responsibilities of a trustee are onerous and serious.

For them, the protocol was not followed, and was persistently sidelined with apparent impunity, thereby causing them to air dirty linens in public as the last resort.

Of course, the beneficiary (PM Lee) has interest too, and the same should be safeguarded, but the younger siblings must have felt (and are still feeling) that proper channels ought to be followed, whether you are a private citizen or the Prime Minister of the country, or wearing both hats.

Alas, this siblings' spat is most unfortunate because it has nothing to do with money. They are all immensely wealthy in their own rights, ways and standing even before their respective inheritance share is added into their own net worth. Neither does it have anything to do with prestige, fame or reputation; for they are all secondary concerns, if at all.

However, the perennial dispute has to do with respecting and carrying out their last father's wish, and it is crystal clear that LKY (and his wife) wanted the Oxley house to be demolished. You just can't put any political spin to that last wish to make it go away or to dilute its testamentary resolve.

Putting aside State's interest, the Preservation of Monuments Act, the ministerial committee, and LHL's Statutory Declaration ("SD"), that uncompromising last testamentary wish (and how it has unravelled a family and nation) is sadly the elephant in the cabinet room, and nobody wants to face the issue head on.

Let me explain what I mean by borrowing the Indian tale of the blind men (and woman) and the Elephant where they are all trying in vain to feel a part of the elephant to figure out the identity of the animal who is standing before them.

Metaphorically, TCH comes out and feels the trunk of the elephant and explains that he is the one who set up the ministerial committee to try "to understand Mr Lee's thinking on the future of the house".

Yet, we all know it is crystal clear that to the late Mr. Lee, the house has no future to start with (leaving aside State's and public interests of course).

If LKY would have his way with unerring foresight, and knowing how the dispute would eventually threatens his legacy, and most importantly, damage to his children's relationship, he would have personally sledgehammered the house down brick by brick - that's what methinks.

What's more, after having felt the elephant's trunk, TCH is still evasive about what is the direct relevance between the suspicion cast on paragraph 7 of the Last Will (as deposed to in LHL's SD) and the committee's deliberation on Oxley's preservation by virtue of legislation and legislation alone, since such matters (that is, the Will's authenticity), if it is seriously contemplated as an issue of concern, should properly be left to the Courts, and not the committee 

(Furthermore, what does PM Lee hope to achieve by raising it privately to the committee? And now, Ms Rajah is raising it in her Facebook knowing full well that such matters should best be left to those with locus standi to start with for the Courts to properly adjudicate).

Mind you, to compound misperception further, the committee will be seen by many to be reporting, directly or indirectly, to their "recused" boss, and not so much to the rightful joint executors, who have been clamouring without much success for some accountability from them.

So, as far as the joint executors are concerned, they felt stone-walled and sidelined by the committee whenever they asked for its member composition, its agenda and update. According to them, it took the committee nearly one year to come out in the open on some of the information they have been requesting for.

One would have therefore expected TCH, after feeling the elephant's trunk, to give an account of that (or to explain why the delay or alleged filibustering), instead of still trying (by executive mandate instead of judicial  due process) to figure paragraph 7 out after more than 2 years of LKY's passing.

I guess to him, the elephant's trunk he touched felt like a snake?

Then comes our law minister. It is his turn to feel the elephant, and he is directed to feel its tail.

Now, according to LWL, he was a very good friend of the family and he was actively involved in advising the late LKY on the demolition clause (and how it was to be carried out), and all the siblings.

As such, it is understandable why they (LHY and LWL) cried foul (or conflict) when they discovered that he was in the committee to adjudicate on its preservation, and possibly, the authenticity of paragraph 7.

But having felt the tail, our law minister essentially only has one word to his siblings and former friends, "ridiculous". Nothing much was said to assure the siblings. As such, I think the siblings must have felt that it was a betrayal.

I guess to the law minister, the elephant's tail he touched felt like a rope?

Then, in comes Ho Ching who feels the knee of the elephant but fails to identify the animal correctly. 

She did not directly reply to LHY's question addressed to her: "It is deeply troubling that someone can represent the PMO despite holding no official position."

All Ho Ching said is that she was doing some housecleaning at that time (when parties were away) when she discovered some "small interesting items" belonging to her father-in-law. She then passed them to NHB without seeking approval from the joint executors.

I guess to Ho Ching, the elephant's knee she touched felt like a tree?


As for Lawrence Wong, he feels the elephant's body and calls it a rough wall. 

The siblings has accused him of brushing aside their concerns about the composition of the committee, and then changing his mind that ran counter to the terms of the Deed of Gift settlement agreement with NHB - the apparent stringency of its terms notwithstanding.

Finally, Ms Rajah is last on the list. She feels the elephant's ear and struggled to identify the animal. Instead, she calls for further enquiries into the circumstances surrounding the Last Will. 

Mind you, her call is not illegitimate, but the protocol and procedure are questionable. As the SMS of Law and Finance, she should have known the proper forum for challenging Wills. 


Further, she then defended TCH's rationale for considering PM Lee's SD questioning the validity of paragraph 7 on demolition. By doing so, she has avoided the questions raised by LHL and LWL, that is, the "secrecy" of the committee, its agenda in the light of PM's SD, the stonewalling, and the possible conflict which made the siblings uncomfortable. More importantly, is the executive committee set up as a judicial panel to decide on the validity of the Will instead of a proper Court of Law?


I guess to Ms Rajah, the elephant's ear she touched felt like a broad fan?

Lesson? Just one.

Well, I always believe in calling a spade a spade. The issue here is not about identifying the elephant correctly (since the men in the parable are blind). Metaphor aside, the issue here is about refusing to see what is right before their eyes (for highly intelligent and respected individuals with normal sight).

Worryingly, for some of them, they do not see that their participation in the debate or feud before July 3 runs the risks of being perceived by the public as a biased attempt to shoring up support for one side against another. This only unnecessarily deepens the siblings' wedge further. At times, silence is golden for those who are not directly captured in the cross-hair of the flying accusations and allegations.


The issue is also about the inescapable mismatch between the ideals of public office and the fallibility of the human agents occupying it. The reality is, we can't always live up to the ideals even in the best of efforts and intentions. 

As public office holders, we always want to project the image of incorruptibility, unimpeachability and beyond reproach.

The people or voters unrealistically and unfailingly expect it, and the politicians are therefore expected to deliver it by all means conceivable whether virtuous or less so.

This mismatch can wreck havoc in the mind of the public office holder, and deepen the cognitive dissonance or perpetuate the self-delusion or confirmation bias. 

We are only humans after all, and we stumble and fall occasionally. Politicians, pastors and common folks, we are all fallible. We bleed when we fall down, and at times, we crash and breakdown too.

As such, to say, insist or paint an impression that one side of this siblings fallout is unimpeachable, fully exonerated, and blameless, and the other side is deeply flawed, wholly mistaken, and fully blameworthy, is to perpetuate this insidious mismatch or delusion, and fall into its trap.

Nothing can be resolved if each fraction keeps insisting they are right and blame the other fraction for everything. It is also highly impossible to maintain that uncompromising position given that the mutual incrimination between the siblings seems to point to shortcomings, misunderstanding, personal faults and errors of judgment on BOTH SIDES.

And now, to rope in reinforcements from and for one side by presenting one side of the story to the exclusion of the other (or at least to be perceived that way) is never a wise step towards bringing closure to the largely private dispute. It only escalates the feud and divide the family further.

Alas, to me, the issue has never been in the first place about preserving the Oxley house by virtue of legislation, or in the interest of the State.

The issue however is first and foremost always about, on the one side, complying with father's wish, carrying it out, and respecting the roles of the joint executors, and on the other side, seeking understanding to preserve the Oxley house, discussing and reconciling father's wish with the possible preservation of Oxley house in a private, frank and amicable manner, and giving each side the time and space to consider and resolve the issue, and most importantly, doing all that while bearing the founding fathers' overriding goal in mind, that is, always be protecting and preserving family relationship and the nation's peace, stability and harmony.

In other words, all parties are to never lose sight of the big picture. And on this, I take my cue from Ho Ching, whom I guess felt the elephant, and for a brief moment of clarity caught her true image, when she said this to the younger siblings:-

"I hope that whatever you are upset about, you will have the heart to remember what papa and mama would have wanted most for the family and for Singapore."


Well, methinks that big-hearted mindset applies to the other side of the divide too. It thus takes an open mind, a forgiving heart and deep understanding to call an elephant an elephant, deal with the issue at hand, and hopefully, move forward from there.

Because ultimately, we do not want to end up "demolishing the family" just so that the house could be preserved. Cheerz.

You are different for a reason.

Kids with dyslexia more prone to social, emotional problems - that's the headlines in the Home section today. 
While Tom Cruise, Richard Branson and even our very own Lee Kuan Yew made it big, rich, and famous in their own unique and admirable ways as they all struggled with reading and understanding, most kids are neither that fortunate nor privileged in their own struggles. 
It reports that kids with dyslexia are often target of cruel bullying and it persists throughout the most crucial phrase of their childhood, that is, throughout their emotional and cognitive development. 
As such, they often suffer from anxiety, depression and low self-esteem - than their normal, well-adjusted peers. 
To them, the world is a stranger and will readily pass them by with ridicule and mockery as they struggle with what they can't understand and grapple with fear, uncertainty and anxiety alone in silence. 
They are basically embarrassed with themselves. They count themselves as failures. And they would rather the world just pass them by.
This cruelty often stems from the insecurity that those who are deemed normal (by society's superficial standards) feel when they notice that their peers are different from them. 
In a society where many strive with unreflective efforts to converge at a one-dimensional economic goal that seduces her seekers with instant gratification, fame and wealth, being different, "slow" or "abnormal" is a liability or burden to such society or community. 
Diversity (or being different) is therefore not uniformity, conformity and ultimately, productivity to such society. 
Lesson? One.
When my youngest, 6, was diagnosed with borderline dyslexia and needed extra help in her studies, I deeply regretted the times when I had used the cane, instead of gentle persuasion, stimulation and playful distraction, to get her to learn.
She must then be wondering by herself, "How do I help daddy to understand that I just don't?"
As a father, a parent, we all want the best for our child. We want them to be accepted by society, to move forward with hope, and to succeed in whatever they are passionate about. 
It is undeniable that their first and most enduring experience of being loved and accepted is in the place where they spent most of their childhood.
Alas, the love of family is the wellspring of their growth and development, and the springboard for their future resilience and hope. 
I have thus learned that rearing a child and loving her is not so much about filling her schedules with work assignments, expecting her to jump academic hoops one after another, and making sure she matches up to that neighbour’s kid who scored all "A's" for his exams. 
Don't we sometimes catch ourselves as parents secretly hoping that our kids would never be different, that is, to always conform, to be like our neighbour’s kid? We hope they were different because being different is bad, even embarrassing. 
Yet, as parents, truly loving our child is to never let her feel that she is alone in her struggles. It is to never let her feel that daddy or mommy doesn't understand, and doesn't care that she's also struggling to please, assure and comfort us so that they may be accepted by us as not being different. 
They have learned through our unintended social cues and body language that being different is wrong.
And most importantly, loving our child is to never let her feel that she is a disappointment to us as she will never be like us, that is, she will always be different. 
My god, I do not want my daughter to be like me. I don't want her to live my script. I want her to be her. To be assured in herself, to grow within herself, to overcome in her own skin, and to be different in her own unique ways. I want her to be different and to know that being different is a privilege, not a liability or burden as insecure bullies will mock her with.
And I understand now that the script that is going to make our kid over-comers later in life is not going to be written alone by them, but it will be primarily co-authored by us as their parents in this growing journey with them. 
We therefore stand in the gap for our children. We make the difference by assuring them that being different is not only normal, but it is a cause for celebration and a reason for loving nurturance. 
We must never forget that we are here as parents in this brief lifetime to love them, not use them as an extension of our stillborn dreams, to cherish them, not make sure they perform to competent levels dictated by society, and most crucially, to help them build wings to soar and fly at their own pace and time, and not put them on society's conveyor belt and expect them to magically experience accelerated growth and maturity so as to conform.
So, joy, daddy is always here with and for you. He is a jerk sometimes, but a jerk who is always prepared to learn. He will faithfully walk with you so that you will never feel alone, or misunderstood and bullied. 
We will journey this together, and together, we will write a new script - a different script because being different is what makes me love and treasure you even more as you are one in a million, or a billion. 
You are the one shining star in the galaxies of billions of stars that supports life - my life. 
And the world, for all I care, can stay the same, uniform or conform, just as long as you stay the way you are - different and uniquely you. Cheerz.