Elizabeth Elida Edward is a burn survivor. 13 years ago,
she and her two older siblings were trapped in a fire. She was only two then.
While she made it, her two older siblings didn't.
But since then, from 2 to 15 today, Elizabeth struggled
with integrating into society.
The fire had left her disfigured and
crippled. For many years, she hid her disfigurement behind a mask - an
expressionless mask.
After the fire, she was hospitalised for 6
months, and ever since, she has been in and out of hospitals in Sarawak and
Kelantan, and recently, under the Hallym Burn Foundation (which helps burn
survivors), Elizabeth received free treatment in Seoul, South Korea.
It reports that "her hands became
deformed...She could walk, but her left foot was disfigured and she was often
in pain, which made regular school attendance impossible."
Her mother, 42, recalled that "there
was no skin on nearly all of her body. Doctors had to patch up her body with
skin from her scalp." (if you are a parent with children, this is deeply
heartbreaking).
In a world where physical appearance
counts, Elizabeth's classmates were understandably afraid of her. She said she
only had two friends, but has since lost contact with them. And because of her
mask, she was known not by her name "Elizabeth", but
"girl".
Her mother explained: "People were
always confused about her gender because of the mask, so I started calling her
Girl. It has stuck as her nickname ever since."
Lesson? Just one...
Elizabeth said that she loves to go to
school but she doesn't have many friends.
In fact, she went back to school in
September and she will be starting her first PT3 papers. She is excited about
it.
For more than 10 years, Elizabeth does not
have a face to show the world. She hid what is left of it behind a mask.
But the treatment in Seoul changed that and
she is now able to walk out in public without it. The world is now able to see
Elizabeth as she is, her face, her smile, her gender, her femininity.
The world will come to know Elizabeth as
Elizabeth and not as the amorphous "girl" any more.
I choose to write about Elizabeth this
morning because she has a face that this world needs to see, a beauty no mask
can hide.
Beyond the disfigurement, the pain and
darkness experienced inside the mask for years, Elizabeth's unmasked face
speaks of an inconvenient beauty that the world rather not speak about.
It is a beauty of the spirit that the world
has no time for. It is a beauty that is too time consuming for the world to
patiently nurture, discover and be deeply enriched by it.
The beauty that Elizabeth offers is truly
of a value that money cannot buy.
No amount of cosmetic enhancement that the
world can offer on a plastic surgeon's table or in a pharmaceutical factory is
able to bring out that beauty because it goes beyond the superficial, the
facade, the mask.
It has a penetrating depth that is not
measured by the world's currency or fiat. And if the world has time for such a
beauty, the world will be duly changed by it.
Because such beauty is silent, not loud, it
is therefore enduring. Because such beauty is deep, not shallow, it is
therefore transforming. And because such beauty is unassuming, never boasting
or self-trumpeting, it is therefore inspiring, timeless.
I dare say that the we owe people like
Elizabeth a debt of humanity for reminding us of our own humanity.
And in this world of insatiable appetites
for the endless pursuit of innumerable things to be added on as ornaments to
our skin, our name and our estate, there is nothing like a
"rude-awakening" from Elizabeth's overcoming life to show us where we
have gone wrong and how we can turn back.
For while the mask Elizabeth wears hide her
physical disfigurement yet it cannot hide her beauty within, the mask we wear
in society may enhance our appearance for a time, but it however cannot hide
our ugliness, our insecurity, our bitter envy inside.
Let me end with what I started.
Elizabeth said her favourite subject is
mathematics, and in her spare time, she "enjoys making arts and crafts,
listening to pop songs and joining story-telling competitions."
She said with a smile: "I want to be a
lawyer or novelist when I'm older. I love to write (I like her already). I
write short stories and read stories online."
Here, I wish her the best in
everything she puts her resilient heart and soul to. In my book, she has
nothing to hide. She is just as normal as all of us. Her beauty is simply
timeless. Cheerz.
Hi Micheal, came across your blog while trying to connect with Elizabeth and her mother.
ReplyDeleteWe did some recycle project in 2017 to raise fund for her trust fund with some children age 7 to 12 and their parents with the aim to introduce concepts of recycling, giving, entrepreneurship and money.
We wish to connect with her or mother because to want to invite her and her mom to attend a music festival that one of the kid that took part in the recycling fund raising projects will be performing. We like to do this behind the scene, anonymously.
If you read this and if you have her, their contact , please connect with... iinspires@gmail.com
Regards
Andy
Hi Micheal, came across your blog while trying to connect with Elizabeth and her mother.
ReplyDeleteWe did some recycle project in 2017 to raise fund for her trust fund with some children age 7 to 12 and their parents with the aim to introduce concepts of recycling, giving, entrepreneurship and money.
We wish to connect with her or mother because we want to invite her and her mom to attend a music festival that one of the kid that took part in the recycling fund raising projects will be performing. We like to do this behind the scene, anonymously.
If you read this and if you have her, their contact , please connect with... iinspires@gmail.com
Regards
Andy