This
week’s straits times tells of a tragic tale, "A young American CEO found dead outside an apartment block had a piece
of paper stained with cocaine in her back pocket."
Ms
Radtke in fact was a former Silicon Valley Whizz-kid. It was reported that
"she had confided with her friends,
co-workers and business associates that she was stressed over money matters,
and even told some of them she had thoughts of killing herself." Apparently,
her company was in financial difficulties.
This
was what the State Coroner had to say, "It is apparent that Ms Radtke was determined to end her life and had
made concerted efforts towards facilitating this outcome. It was unfortunate
that the magnitude of the issues on the work and personal front had taken a
toll on her and precipitated the tragic event."
My
heartfelt sympathy and regards to her and her loved ones. It was a wonderful
and beautiful life that was extinguished so young...she was only 28.
Lesson?
I guess one of the greatest ironies of modern society is this proven failed
correlation, that is, happiness and material affluence. Getting rich (or
hoping/striving to get rich) is no guarantee of happiness. In fact, statistics
have shown otherwise.
Sadly,
not many of us have this blessed hindsight because our culture of narcissism,
materialism and competitive envy have blinded us to what truly matters in our
life (I preface this by saying that I am making a general observation here and
this has nothing whatsoever to do with Ms Radtke's case. I make no judgment
because it is usually more complicated than it seems).
I
believe in our society there are the good struggle and the bad ones. And I
enjoin this with there being three groups of people in this world, that is, the
navel-gazer, the stargazer and the life-gazer.
The
stargazers and the navel-gazers are often embroiled in the bad struggle. They
either look to be stars and strive with everything they have to be one or
navel-gaze into hopelessness and learned helplessness.
For
the stargazers, they eventually lose their self-identity in this materialistic
rat-race and as their riches crash, their life and life-worth goes with it as
well. Then, the navel-gazers are those who live without goals, responsibility
and hope. They are often long "dead" before their actual
cremation/burial. They carry their urn of resignation with them wherever they
go.
The
last group are the life-gazers. Their focus is on living and on living well.
They may not be rich but they are contented, and practically so. They do not
hitch their self-worth on the wrong bandwagon of wealth, reputation and status.
They hitch it to giving their best, accepting the losses, and moving forward.
They are no doubt humans with its flaws but they make the most of a very human
situation and ultimately fight the good fight to the end.
I aspire to be in this group
despite my many failures. Because if life is a constant struggle, I strive to
invest in the good struggles of growth rather than defeat, of hope rather than
doom, and of life rather than giving up. This struggle will either take my life
or I shall take life from it; and that's what the good struggle is all about.
Cheerz.
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